Tell Me What You Want

Justin J. Lehmiller, a renowned expert on human sexuality and author of the popular blog Sex and Psychology, has dedicated his career to exploring our deepest sexual desires.

In his groundbreaking book “Tell Me What You Want,” Lehmiller presents findings from a massive two-year study of sexual fantasies, involving over 4,000 diverse participants. This work offers an unprecedented glimpse into our fantasy worlds and what they reveal about us.

Key insights include:
• Understanding your own sexual desires
• Appreciating your partner’s different proclivities
• Recognizing the diversity of human sexual desire
• Overcoming shame and anxiety about fantasies

Lehmiller argues that embracing this diversity and openly discussing fantasies can lead to more satisfying relationships and enhanced sex lives. By breaking down barriers around sexual fantasies, we can potentially turn them into reality and maintain healthier, more fulfilling partnerships